Trying to justify your own emotions to everyone, even your therapist, is EXHAUSTING.

You feel like an imposter in your own life. People see your accomplishments but don’t see you or what’s actually going on underneath. Your friends have moved on, they’re living the American dream, and you never quite seemed to get there.

You struggle with regulating your emotional intensity, want to create an ideal relationship with your friends and family, feel stuck in the past or worried about the future, or find yourself so caught up in your head, you forget to live their lives in the present.

Everyone tells you to “just do it,” but you can’t do the thing.

Sure, you have the ability and maybe even the desire, but there’s something standing in your way. 

You want to develop mutually empowering relationships with friends, have a supportive but not all-consuming intimate relationship, and be mindful with your family instead of always spending time focused on doing (or thinking about doing) your work or chores. You want to stop living in the past and thinking about all the things you could have/ should have/ would have said.

You need a therapist who instead of saying “just do it,” actually helps you to figure out what is getting in your way and trusts YOU as the expert of your own life.

So the first question we will ask: what’s really going on?

I’m going to listen to your experience and together we will decide which concrete tools from Dialectic Behavior Therapy (DBT), Exposure Response Prevention (ERP), trauma processing, or others you need to take from therapy to start making real-life changes and do the thing.